Sometimes, everyone feels ashamed of themselves, be it something the desire, something they have done, something that is part of them, something they long to change or even wish had never happened.

While we often fail to discuss things like that seriously often dismissing them as a joke, the feeling of being ashamed everyone understands. Yet in a kink like this where perfectionism often comes out it is easy for those that are different to feel ashamed and try and hide.

Switches become ashamed of their 'other' side.

Those who may have bi tendencies become ashamed of the 'gay' side

Those who see themselves as too fat or too thin, become ashamed of their own bodies.

And then there are the deeper things people feel ashamed for, the things that have happened to them or are hidden from everyone.

Earlier I posted a reimbursement for something which, I will openly admit I wasn't sure if i should or not, I felt ashamed to do so because it showed I wasn't 'perfect' there was something wrong with me. Now at first glance, you may very well think there is nothing there that's unusual so why would you feel ashamed, however if you read the post fully you will understand that the reason for the shame is that we live in a world and are part of a community which often makes one feel everything has to be perfect.

And by posting that I have openly admitted that my body isn't perfect as it is broken .

Disabilities take many forms but ultimately those with them face the same reaction, "Something wrong with them" and pitted or even ridiculed for it.

But the reason i decided to post it was so that others felt they could be honest an open about things and know they aren't alone. All it takes is one person to do something unexpected to allow for change

and remember inside each of us there is a new version waiting to burst free like a phoenix from the ashes