Do Alphas and Doms See Others as a Threat? from MstrD's blog
In the world of dominance and obedience, there's a subtle dance of power, control, and respect. As an alpha or dom, you're often placed on a pedestal of authority, with expectations to be confident, decisive, and unwavering. But what happens when an alpha engages in casual conversation with other doms? Does this interaction somehow challenge their status, or even worse, make them appear weak?
I've noticed an interesting trend where an alpha initiates or joins a conversation, some others can misconstrue this as a sign that the alpha might be a switch or even interested in obedience. It's as if merely engaging in conversation is now seen as a potential threat to their dominance. But does this really reflect a flaw in the alpha, or does it say more about the insecurities and assumptions of others?
The ability to chat and engage with others, in my opinion, is a sign of confidence. Alphas who can have open discussions aren't threatened by the presence of others—whether they are subs, switches, or fellow doms. They're secure in their own identity and dominance. But when others perceive a simple conversation as a weakness, it's worth considering why this is happening.
Has the role of an alpha become so rigidly defined that any deviation from a stereotypical image leads to misconceptions? Or perhaps this is about power dynamics and the fear that any interaction might shift the balance, even momentarily.
For me, the real threat comes not from having a conversation, but from the idea that engaging with others could be perceived as weakness. A true alpha knows that their dominance isn't undermined by talking to others. In fact, it can strengthen their presence and connections within the community.
So, is it that alphas are seeing others as a threat? Or is the real threat the narrow perceptions we place on dominance and obedience roles?
How do you see interactions between doms? Do you think the willingness to chat, exchange ideas, or even laugh together challenges the dynamic, or do you believe it’s a sign of deeper strength?
I personally don't see other Dom's as a threat, I'm happy to learn from other people, it doesn't make me less of a man for doing so, however I do judge other men heavily for not being able to do the same, because in my eyes, that's insecurity, unchecked inssercurity in ones self leads to weakness.I personally don't see other Dom's as a threat, I'm happy to learn from other people, it doesn't make me less of a man for doing so, however I do judge other men heavily for not being able to do the s...See more
Enjoyed reading this and thanks for sharing. In our 30 second, two dimensional, relentlessly crowded world Doms and subs fall into the trap of stereotypes and the 'copy and paste' profile. Here's a thing, my best relationships have been with real people, with souls, sadness, love, joy and laughter.Enjoyed reading this and thanks for sharing. In our 30 second, two dimensional, relentlessly crowded world Doms and subs fall into the trap of stereotypes and the 'copy and paste' profile. Here's a th...See more
I haven’t really noticed the trend you identify, and I think community connection is essential. But there is some truth, and likely always will be, to the old aphorism that “Masters are like eagles. They prefer to soar alone.”
Good read. I never seen other dons as a threat until they purposely try to. Most of the time though I just assume they get sexually aroused by me or feel threaten by me to try to threaten me. Most are solo players which is fine but I don’t see people as threats.Good read. I never seen other dons as a threat until they purposely try to. Most of the time though I just assume they get sexually aroused by me or feel threaten by me to try to threaten me. Most are...See more
