Remote controlled fags

Posted by docMboot

The internet allows so much scope for controlling fags.  Some people imagine there's not much you can do as a Cyber Master beyond a bit of verbal. But how wrong they are.

* Financial Domination is an obvious one.  Whether it's handing over cash or handing over control of a bank account, there's real actual financial pain possible without being in the same room as the fag.

* Remote control chastity.  The key to the device can be locked in a box controlled by a bluetooth padlock.  The fag may have the box, but there's no way it's getting the key without the Master's say so.  

* Remote control butt plugs.  Sub has to put it in, but then its arse is under remote control.

* Online cameras.  Fag's house becomes the big brother house.  Master can set all kinds of rules....

* Amazon Alexa.  "Drop in" allows instant access to someone else's Echo -- voice call and microphones.  Speak and hear what's going on.  Great in combination with the cameras.

* Tracking apps.  Use the fag's phone as a tracking device.  Endless possibilities.

I fucking love technology.  I fucking love control.

Safe, Sane, Consensual

Posted by docMboot

In real-time BDSM, many make these three their watchwords as part of the path to ethical Dominance and s********n -- or slavery.  This makes excellent sense.  For the wise, a safe word is a key part of that: It marks the withdrawal (temporary, or as a full end to the scene) of consent.  Continuing when consent has been withdrawn is fucked-up behaviour and could even be criminal.

But what about interaction at a distance?

I mention this because I was in touch with an inexperienced fag yesterday who said he got locked in chastity shortly before the covid lockdown, and was then stuck in the cage because he couldn't meet his KH.  Now, that's quite funny if you're into chastity, but at some point the fag says he really wanted out.  He says the KH refused to send the key in the post.  At that point, you start to think that's eventually rather shitty behaviour.  In fact, if the sub truly wants out, and is not given a way out, that's a***e. [Let's overlook the question of whether a ball-trap device can really be that perfect; we can also discount the "what if the key got lost in the post" excuse, since every lock always has more than one key.  As for me, I'd always insist on the fag having access to an emergency key.]  

It strikes me that people seldom have a safe word for cyber/online D/s.  But wouldn't that be a good idea?  So you can distinguish between the "I hate being locked" moaning and the actual withdrawal of consent.  It might make interacting all the more horny if there is some pleading and moaning --- while you know that the fag is laying it on thick and isn't actually at the point of wanting out for real.

Does this also carry over to findom, and anything that's all in the mind?  The sub who wants out can, of course, just stop responding/block/run away.  But mindfuckery doesn't really work that way does it?  Or, not for everyone: so you get the phenomenon of fags crawling back for more. To give them an 'out' requires the Master to work out if they're genuinely needing to be cut loose, or of they just need encouragement.  I don't know if safewords would help here.  I need to think more about this.  

Chastity is more than denial, it's tranformational

Posted by lambethmaster

I've been thinking a while why I'm turned on by subs in chastity. It's more than the physical: for sure, I think that a neat and small device on a sub makes them look significantly sexier, seeing it their underwear, giving a clear defined shape to their denied manhood.  When browsing through social media, it's so hot to see teh gym selfies of a sub in chastity, straddling the line of discretion and recognition of their sub status.

Yet, there's more to it, I belive.  My experience with chastity is that it starts to rewire the sub in ways they can't imagine at the beginning.  At first, I can't deny, I love the control - knowing the sub is not able to orgasm without consent and usually at my hands.  Knowing that the sub has put its trust in my hands and surrended themselves to me really does drive me wild.  And when they're gone and you're holding the key, the true sign of your control over them.  It's this journey over time that starts to eat away at the sub. There's the hunger to cum (and may subs never get past this phase), being constantly horny and needing master to let them release.  The true slaves are those that allow this hunger to consume them, to let their service become their identity. They're controlled subs, no longer men with the right to an erection.  This is where you see the sub blossom, where the very throught of an orgasm through their nub begins to feel alien and undesirable.  The only cock that matters is the one that penetrates them.  They worship that cock, their own reduced to an inferior status.  It's here that I find the sub truly accepts their place and finds the peace with their status.

To the other masters, what is your experience?  How does chastity fit with your subs and slaves? 

For the slaves and subs, what happens in your head?  How long can you go without needing to cum?