Of course, there are other darker themes around the same scenes - 'cash ****', 'b*******l', and more. Trying to find the right line, some are keen to add the word 'consensual' to those terms -- but that seems like a contradiction in terms: just because you can form the phrase doesn't mean it makes sense. I guess what people are trying to get at there is an element of role-play, in the first case, and a form of advance commitment in the second. This is edgier, but appeals to some I know: edgy because all sorts of law and protections surrounds all of these activities.
A bit of edge spices things up a bit, but a serious risk to my career, or to my credit rating, or even to my financial or other online accounts, is quite a mood killer. I want to be enjoying the financial domination game, not looking over my shoulder for a submissive who wants to make mischief or worse.
And sub behaviour is of course the other challenge here. If your capacity to consent is impaired - because you are deceived, or because you are mentally ill, or even because you suffer from serious low self-esteem issues, then please seek professional help and stay away from this community. On the other hand, if you fully have capacity, but tend to think with your cock, or you tend to get pissed and start sending tributes, I have no problem with taking your money.
Others will have different outlooks, and a different propensity to edginess. Find your appropriate level. As for me, a fully aware, capable consenting adult who serves me - preferably over and over again - is truly, deeply, fucking sexy.
[with apologies for triggering word filter warnings - fair enough]
But what about interaction at a distance?
I mention this because I was in touch with an inexperienced fag yesterday who said he got locked in chastity shortly before the covid lockdown, and was then stuck in the cage because he couldn't meet his KH. Now, that's quite funny if you're into chastity, but at some point the fag says he really wanted out. He says the KH refused to send the key in the post. At that point, you start to think that's eventually rather shitty behaviour. In fact, if the sub truly wants out, and is not given a way out, that's a***e. [Let's overlook the question of whether a ball-trap device can really be that perfect; we can also discount the "what if the key got lost in the post" excuse, since every lock always has more than one key. As for me, I'd always insist on the fag having access to an emergency key.]
It strikes me that people seldom have a safe word for cyber/online D/s. But wouldn't that be a good idea? So you can distinguish between the "I hate being locked" moaning and the actual withdrawal of consent. It might make interacting all the more horny if there is some pleading and moaning --- while you know that the fag is laying it on thick and isn't actually at the point of wanting out for real.
Does this also carry over to findom, and anything that's all in the mind? The sub who wants out can, of course, just stop responding/block/run away. But mindfuckery doesn't really work that way does it? Or, not for everyone: so you get the phenomenon of fags crawling back for more. To give them an 'out' requires the Master to work out if they're genuinely needing to be cut loose, or of they just need encouragement. I don't know if safewords would help here. I need to think more about this.
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