Graduated from university… what now? - posted by SkinnySadBoy at Owned Fags

Graduated from university… what now? from SkinnySadBoy's blog

The reason for my inactivity in the findom space was because I had to be grinding on my degree. Now it’s over I’m not sure how to feel.

The free time given to me whilst studying allowed me to dedicate so much time to keeping my slaves in check, I didn’t need a job because im more than good at what I do. Now I have to get a proper grad job and for those who live in the UK know just how bad the job market is right now. The jobs I’m applying for just don’t ignite me like controlling does.

I truly believe I was put on this earth to mindfuck, put slaves in their place, but now I have to just pretend I’m normal like everyone else. Has anyone else had this issue?

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May 29

SimX

Find something that does ignite you like controlling does. It doesn't have to be the grad job-- something where you are in control. Side hustle, trading/investing, your own business. Make sure you're passionate enough to get good at it-- findom can always afford you more time to get there-- i would box that in with luxury and leisure, but it wont give you the passion or the need to be in charge of your own productivity and output.

Doing absolutely nothing else will always put you in a position of need/dependence and a lack of power, no matter how good you are at it.

Never take it for granted or as a given beyond fetish-- never allocate bills to a roster of slaves, other than for the fun/excitement of it- don't need itFind something that does ignite you like controlling does. It doesn't have to be the grad job-- something where you are in control. Side hustle, trading/investing, your own business. Make sure you're ...See more

May 29

SimX

Even if you are as 'good' as you feel, do you want to be in a position where you'll perform for cash because rent is due?

If you want control and autonomy, find the skill or passion, or business that will give you that-- and then take more ;-)Even if you are as 'good' as you feel, do you want to be in a position where you'll perform for cash because rent is due?

If you want control and autonomy, find the skill or passion, or...See more

May 29

SimX

All that to say, don't put all of your eggs in one basket. If you're taking enough to not need it right now, take a gap year and indulge it-- but don't make it your life, upskill yourself in other ways if you don't find the passion in pursuing the job that your degree affords-- then you're in the best spot- qualified, pursuing passion and raking it in.All that to say, don't put all of your eggs in one basket. If you're taking enough to not need it right now, take a gap year and indulge it-- but don't make it your life, upskill yourself in other way...See more

Aug 4

Alex

I suspect the vast majority of people on this site have had to “pretend I’m normal like everyone else,” at least for a significant chunk of their lives, and many likely continue to do so even now. Some might never be able to escape the feeling that they’re living the life of an imposter.

I certainly spent a good portion of my life suppressing aspects of myself to my detriment, suppressing those aspects not only from others, but from myself as well. SimX gives good practical advice that I suggest taking to heart. I know it is challenging, but working to integrate your innate identity into a broader life framework that leverages those aspects of yourself will make you an even better Dom/Master/etc. The same is true for subs/slaves/etc.

And I think it helps to know that many others are facing the same fundamental challenge. RL discussion groups where these issues can be discussed more thoroughly than on an online forum can provide more support than you might expect.I suspect the vast majority of people on this site have had to “pretend I’m normal like everyone else,” at least for a significant chunk of their lives, and many likely continue to do so even now. Som...See more

Aug 4

theseniormaster001

There are occassions when skills transference need not be applied to pursuits that run parallel courses. Personally I gain great satisfaction from counseling, coaching, and mentoring, which, when done in their purest form, are devoid of any sense of domination.There are occassions when skills transference need not be applied to pursuits that run parallel courses. Personally I gain great satisfaction from counseling, coaching, and mentoring, which, when done...See more

Aug 5

theseniormaster001

As a further aside. Some people find that their work is their passion and for the huge majority that don't find that to be the case, I suggest considering that their work may be the very thing which allows them to pursue their passion elsewhere.

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