What is Dominance? And What Makes a Real Master?

Masters are everywhere these days, aren't they. Look around, and you’ll see countless individuals declaring themselves as Masters. While it's commendable to see male empowerment being embraced, are these representations genuine? Financial Dominants have merely become a trendy, superficial way to make a quick buck.

Let’s be clear: true domination is not easy; any experienced Master will tell you that. Subs, open your eyes and take a good look at the staggering turnover rate. Just how many of these so-called Masters are genuinely worthy of the title? The answer is painfully obvious … not many.

You’ve likely heard plenty of Masters whining about "fake subs" and "time wasters," but the reality is that subs are also suffering. When vulnerable, they are scammed and manipulated, often led to believe they’ve found their true "Master," only to discover they’ve been dealing with someone playing a pathetic game of "dress up." Such experiences are damaging, especially when these interactions lack an understanding of RACK or SSC. (If you’re unfamiliar with these terms, do yourself a favour and educate yourself before engaging in any D/s relationships. Ignorance is a reckless choice.)

So, what does true Dominance look like, and what distinguishes a "Master" from the pretenders?

Picture this: a commanding man presents himself online, declaring he is a Master—specifically, a FinDom. As a sub, you might feel a rush of excitement. You browse his page, captivated by his charisma and confidence, perhaps even enticed by the allure of his outfits, toys or techniques. He claims to revel in chastity and control, drawing you in with every word.

Your first interaction is thrilling. He pushes you to your very limits, teasing you expertly with his presence and dominance. You surrender completely, falling into a blissful subspace. Once it’s over, you find yourself crashing hard. On a physical level, satisfaction washes over you, as he has taken what he wanted. But here’s the question: what else does this Master have to offer beyond that exhilarating encounter?

Humans are inherently sexual beings, but once those immediate desires are fulfilled, they crave even more depth. There’s only so much one can take at once, and not all individuals have the same level of desire. So, ask yourself: what can this Master truly provide?

Can he mentally enslave you? Can he dig deep into the darkest corners of your mind and plant thoughts that revolve solely around him? These are not merely sexual fantasies; they are powerful, enslaving notions that compel you to submit completely, surrendering control over your mind, body, soul, and possessions.

This isn’t about sexual thrills; it’s about genuine dominance that seeps into your very being. Did he offer aftercare? Did he respect the boundaries you set? Did he ensure you leave intact, both physically and financially? Does he even care beyond mere transactions? Does he recognize you as a sub with needs ? And most critically, do you feel a genuine connection, a profound sense of care for him that goes beyond the surface?

Here’s the catch: the double-edged sword. Some throng this space seeking nothing but fleeting encounters - both "Masters" and subs who are more fetishists than anything else. It boils down to serving individual needs, not forging real connections. They will act out their roles briefly until their urges are quenched and then disappear, chasing the next thrill. This is not dominance; this is role play.

This is where the trouble brews. If you’re a genuine sub scampered among the imposters, the fallout can be devastating. Subspace is sacred, and it deserves respect. When it’s infringed, emotional and psychological devastation isn’t far behind. A true Master understands the responsibility that comes with that power and never exploits vulnerability for selfish gain.

I don't want this blog to go dark, so let's look at things this way: if I go to a costume store, buy a superhero outfit, and post pictures online claiming to be a real superhero, will anyone take Me seriously? Everyone knows that superheroes are fictional characters, so I won’t get far that way. The only thing I'll look like is a delusional fool. Now, imagine I buy a firefighter’s costume and head to a public event. Suddenly, there's a fire, and people start shouting for a firefighter to help. They see me and ask for assistance, believing I can help extinguish the flames. I have no training or knowledge about firefighting, but I claim I’m a firefighter. Do you think those people would be safe? Probably not, and it’s all My fault. By pretending to be something I am not, I could endanger lives—much like a D/s relationship that lacks a solid foundation or honesty

Picture this: some guy sees the lucrative world of FinDoms and thinks, “I’ll be a Master today.” He dresses the part, maybe in leather pants and high boots, but does he have any grasp of what it means to be a true Dominant? Does he even know how to wield that power? Anyone can don a costume; it doesn’t imbue them with genuine knowledge or skill. Dominance is an intrinsic make -it’s about mindset, reaction, and a depth of understanding that can’t be fabricated. True Dominants are perpetual learners; they continually seek knowledge about safety and kink. If you want to awaken your inner Master, by all means do so, but don’t pretend to be someone you’re not.

Now, look at Me. I can dominate any sub at any moment, even dressed in My most comfortable attire, without a single prop in sight. The only tools I wield are My words. I know I am rather good looking and I do wear My leathers amazingly well. Yes at times I use it to My advantage, every Master should use His amazing male arsenal to His advantage, however that will only get you so far. When I see wannabe Masters griping about not attracting subs due to age or looks, I can’t help but shake my head. Yes, attraction may lure a sub at first, but it’s the mind—the essence—that will bind them.

Dominance isn’t tethered by age, appearance, or attire. It stems from embracing your true self and wielding that power responsibly. Subs can detect genuine dominance; they’re drawn to it unerringly. When you exude positivity and self-assurance, you’ll attract the right energy.

Claiming your dominance isn’t about fitting a mold; it’s about owning your unique appeal. If you’re perpetually grumbling about subs or other Masters, you’ll only repel them. True Masters don’t chase or demand; they command respect and appreciation.

A real Dominant does not belittle themselves with desperation or demands; they understand that obedience is a privilege to be treasured. Anyone flaunting negativity or neediness is simply revealing their own insecurities and intentions for quick gain.

For me, if a sub checks out My profile and chooses not to engage, that’s perfectly fine. The right one will recognize My worth and pursue Me accordingly. Mastery is about cold indifference to societal expectations; it’s living authentically without apology.

I embrace My essence. I Know I am remarkable, and I don’t waste energy convincing anyone else. Dominance isn’t the mask I wear; it’s intrinsically who I am. I am keen to explore My dominant side, and I do it with integrity and I don’t bypass the vital principles of respect and safety.

Subs are not just playthings—they are individuals with needs and emotions. As a Master, it’s your duty to learn and grow, to be transparent about your journey. D/s relationships thrive on honesty and mutual respect. Lying about your abilities only jeopardizes true enjoyment.

So subs, when you spy a supposedly captivating man in fetish attire, take a moment to scratch the surface and do your due diligence. Looks can be enticing, but it’s the substance—the brilliant mind, the genuine essence—that fosters lasting connection.

Masters, cast aside the superficial. Strive for depth beyond what’s visible. If you’re solely in this game for a quick dollar, perhaps you should reconsider your intentions -this is about respect and real connection, and if you cannot commit to that, step back.