Long Time No See

Hello everone, been a while. I had stepped away for some time to really reflect and think about why I wasn't enjoying my time. The site and its people, on all sides, has been quite enjoyable. But I found myself lacking in enjoyment. And I felt it wasn't fair to others to try to engage with them if I wasn't firing at full potential. It took me a while to realize it but, I realized the issue was with me. 

I had fallen into the trap of thinking that I needed to do my best to fit some idea some people might have, instead of embracing who I was. Ir can happen to the best of us. So I'm here today to say that I am back, and happier than ever with who I am. Please, feel free to message me. I would love to have another shot at all this.

What I enjoy most

Honesty, as they always say, is the best policy. It's something I try to live up to, especially in spaces like this. I'm not the most fit person in here, nor am I the loudest or the most aggressive. Truth be told, I'm a nerd. Damn proud of that too. Always have been and always will be. It's not for everyone, but that's ok. What I do appreciate, and what I like to think I bring to the table, is a willingness to understand and develop a relationship with a sub in order to try to help them become the best sub they can be. Providing them an outlet that they can enjoy, and might not find elsewhere.

I find enjoyment in the building of the relationship between a dom and a sub. Some are eager to jump into the deep end, others need more time. And that's ok. As long as the sub is serious, willing, and dedicated, I am willing to do my part to help build them up, strengthen the relationship, and provide them their end of this pleasure deal. I enjoy seeing subs change and develop over time. Becoming more willing, more eager, enjoying what they do. I enjoy seeing them offer things not because I told them to, but because they WANT to. That's they key part. I WANT them to enjoy serving, I WANT them to enjoy what they do, I WANT them to look forward every day to doing what they do best.

Seeing that, in my opinion, is something that can't be beat. And it makes every tribute that much sweeter, for both sides. If you as a sub do not enjoy sending Send every time, then I have failed you. And I for one do not tolerate failure. So I strive every day to learn more, to grow more, to be a dom that you can be happy and proud to serve. 

The Mental Game

I think there is a lot that can be said about the mental aspect of any dom, but findom in particular. While I respect those who decide to go the blunt route, I myself prefer the mental games that can be played with subs. Get them relaxed, get them comfortable. Perhaps catch them when they are drinking. Then start picking apart what makes them tick. Mend your words and your tone to really sell it home to them, make them believe that it is not you telling them, but them thinking of it themselves. Guide them in the direction you want, and with some patience and the right words, you could easily take whatever you wanted from them, and all they would do is say thank you. It's especially fun on a sub who is relapsing, since it makes the feelings they experience more potent and makes it easier for you to get what you want.

So how about it, subs? Want a guy who gets in your head? Then reach out to me.

Findom: My Thoughts

While I am a bit new to the findom scene, I am not new to the Dom scene. And frankly I'm not sure how I didn't stumble across this before. Findom, when you boil it down, is about control, about the power dynamic. The subs giving up their power, their dignity, in a physical form to someone they see as worthy of that respect. At first I was a bit skeptical about it, but now that I've had some experience under my belt...

Oh boy, the feeling of control and overall power that I feel over a sub when I see that email saying I have money waiting. Seeing how they often beg and praise while degrading themselves. Having that physical element to it in a way that benefits the dom (me), really helps to tie it all together. 

As a dom, I believe that I should be able to converse with a sub, establish the rules, and have some fun. Abd while I wouldn't go out of my way to bankrupt someone... I'd be down for it if they so choose. So, if you're reading this and want to have some fun, send me a message. And it will all begin real soon