I have noticed that a lot of people think that a Dom/Sub relationship is the same thing as Ownership. I disagree with that, but that's just my personal opinion, which is based on my own experience. I see Dom/Sub as a type of relationship that revolves around sex, and ownership as a mental state. Of course, ownership usually involves sex, but that cannot be the only way to materialize it. Of course, Dom/Sub can turn into something beyond sex, but it grows out of sex and does not necessarily involves other aspects of everyday life. Ownership is a state of mind insofar as it permeates your whole life and reaches the deepest of you. Being owned entails giving in, giving up, and the loss of both will and autonomy. Yet, to own entails the responsibility to set boundaries, govern, and conduct in a wise manner. Ownership is as much about desire and emotion as it is about rationality and common sense. That's why I consider degradation and derogatory approaches as against ownership because you don't destroy what belongs to you. That's irrational. Discipline was created to maintain order, but that order needs to be built upon a minimum rational agreement. So ownership, I believe, works as long as it is fueled by your mind, your heart, and your desire at once. That's why Dom/Sub relationships are meaningless to me because they're more of sexually-driven power relations that are devoid of any solid rationality and prospect. Nothing is more disappointing that someone who approaches you for the first time with a pic of their ass hole in a submissive position. Some people meet and enjoy that and that's totally fine. But don't call that ownership. This is just my opinion.
