Having just had a session with a local sub, it's really got me thinking about what it means to me to be Dom.

Since discovering that I could be a Dom without being makeful, a dickhead or just plain mean I have always therefore called myself a gentle Dom. As such I understand that I am in the minority, especially when it comes to online only interactions but the connections I have with the subs I do interact with are always so close and loving. I have a lot of love to give, so I choose to give that special commodity to those who serve me the way I want and deserve.

I don't expect to have to resort to the makeful and intimidating ways to get people to do what I want. The subs I get along with are those who genuinely want to be there and serve and they feel lucky to do so. Subs who want a Dom to make them feel safe so they can do what they love and feel appreciated for it without any mental barriers and no bull💩 personas or drama.

Does this mean I get less subs interested in me than the traditional Dom guys? Absolutely. But what it also means is those I do forge connections with run deeper, last longer and I can rest and relax knowing that both myself and the sub are living our best lives.

I have no idea why I felt the need to get this off my chest but if you are a sub, Dom or otherwise who maybe feels like you don't fit the traditional roles just know you aren't alone. And if you feel like you need a Dom in your life who can be a positive and nurturing influence you know where my inbox is.