Feel free to message me, 30 years old with a lot of experience in the scene. I had long relationships with my subs, even we had to part ways I made sure it ends in a good way. I like to care about my subs, talking about everything with them. Because it's the best way to bond and make it an unique relationship.
What I want
I'm not really a fan of boring or 'one way' conversations. You don't have to keep calling me 'Sir, Master' in every single message. Don't act like a robot, just be yourself and try to get my attention instead of acting like a sub. Be yourself.
What experience do you have?
In the scene over 6-7 years, I always liked it to be a special conversations with my subs. I like them to see me as part of their life. Not just someone they talk 10 minutes a week to jerk off and get disappear.
Nothing like seeing notifications on inbox and it was just a message from deleted user. These bitches just want to serve as long as their little dick hard for 10 minutes. smh
Some of these subs need serious discipline but they don't even realize it. Y'all wanna have a dom or wanna get owned but still want to have control of lot of things.
I'm a type of dom who likes to take most decisions with his sub, but even I get tired of this type of behaviour. Don't act like you want to be dominated when all you actually want is spending like 10-15 minutes and throw some money over any 'lucky' doms you can find.
As we always say but most of us don't care to do, this 💩 should be more than just the money to make it consistent and more meaningful. It's about your efforts and intentions too. At the end, we all stay around the scene to feed our desires. sometimes it can be money, sometimes loyalty, sometimes having a person you feel attracted or share lot of feelings or thoughts together.
Not gonna lie though, the vast majority of doms are responsible for subs behaving this way. This is what happens when all you do is consistently asking for money without adding some quality to your subs or that relationship.
I had some posts like this in the past because I like passionate people around me. People who brings sustainable quality on whatever they do. Maybe it's just my personal problem about this scene but wish some things were different.
And of course, this is not something that targets everyone or includes blanket criticism. Everybody has their own likes or their own way to do things. But as someone who had great material and nonmaterial times in findom, I think it makes sense to say some things out loud. Especially inexperienced people in the scene should think about it and decide who they want to be or what exactly their needs are.
Although I don't much disagree, this behavior on both sides is prevalent enough in most online D/s (and much RL D/S), and a consequence of very real struggles people have with their often misunderstood feelings. It does not really seem all that shocking to me that it is worse with findom, given the nature of the interaction. A lot of this just comes with the territory we are exploring.Although I don't much disagree, this behavior on both sides is prevalent enough in most online D/s (and much RL D/S), and a consequence of very real struggles people have with their often misunderstoo...See more
I’ve been blown away this afternoon . How 2 gentlemen have done such a touching and thoughtful act .
Sadly I lost my dad on Friday morning who lost his fight to cancer . It all happened extremely quickly with a rapid decline . Nike and Mutt know how close I was with my dad , and have known how hard I’ve taken this . They have found out the hospice who looked after him so amazingly throughout his final days and have made an incredibly generous donation in his memory . I’m really stunned by their actions and very emotional by it 🥹
Out of both of their many tributes towards me , this is by far the most special and personal one
Thank you boys for being there for me through out this tough time
Wow this brings back memories. How can it have been 6 months ago? I know we still chat about him and those times often. He’d still be so proud of you Boss 💪
I really miss having a like-minded sub. Money will always be the most fun part of this, it'd be a lie if I say otherwise but feeling really close to someone to talk about your life, their life and sharing rough times and good times always makes me feel better and alive. I miss those feelings too.
I kinda accepted the fact that things like that won't last forever especially in this scene and this is one of the reasons I don't feel as curious or passionate about getting to know new people. But at the same time special things like that happens when you least expected them or give up about them, I still have hope tho.
So I hope people here continue their journey with people they think are compatible with, otherwise whole thing turns into nonsense that you don't enjoy and feel empty.
Birthday in a week, the second half of 2023 and the start of 2024 felt like hell for me. Hope to turn the things around, wishing the same for everyone : )
A nice example of what a great sub does to a mf. My boy gives me peace of mind since we met, If we have any type of problems we both know we got each other's back. For me, it's the simple things that bond a strong relationship. Simple but meaningful things, the effort you show to make each other's life better. Making eachother feel at home. With all my heart I hope we all make this scene more REAL with honest effort and true feelings that fires something good in us. Having someone who really understands you and willing to share life with you is priceless. I never hesitate to THANK YOU for warming my heart up at my worst moments. Love you Nevermore.A nice example of what a great sub does to a mf. My boy gives me peace of mind since we met, If we have any type of problems we both know we got each other's back. For me, it's the simple things that bond a strong relationship. Simple but meaningful things, the effort you show to make each other's l...See more
YoungDom Sir, I love your pics Sir, but please, please, please, get yourself a vape. I wish I'd done it years ago. I know, boring, a bit of mothering from an old slave, but get yourself a vape.#
Quite some time ago I posted that on OF the ratio between the number of Masters and the number of slaves was approaching the "golden ratio" (not to be confused with golden showers) but sadly this is no longer the case. The ratio has decreased dramatically.
Are Masters at risk of extinction, melting away like the polar caps or rubber gear in a heatwave? Are they perhaps discovering their true hidden nature, coming back batting for the other team?
Are they involved in savage Master-on-Master battles where only the victorious rise again? Or perhaps it's just natural selection at work where only the toughest and most adaptable (the slaves - the cockroaches of the findom world) survive... 😜
There are many of us get dissolusioned with the lack of action. For example: I am told by many that I am liked and am good at what I do but as soon as I give an order the order is politely declined. It makes me think "why do I bother?" Add to that, I often read from a sub "I can't find a Master". It makes me think. "open your eyes and don't be so picky or stop winging about it."There are many of us get dissolusioned with the lack of action. For example: I am told by many that I am liked and am good at what I do but as soon as I give an order the order is politely declined. I...See more
Changing the meaning of the scene or to shape it into our own style is probably a goal for some of us. constantly asking and wanting over and over again is easy and at some point it makes people lazy and lose passion. finding a great connection or maybe the opposites that leads to 'provoking passions' with your sub aren't something you can find everyday or maybe in your whole experience in this scene. As a person I always look and need a meaning on everything. just worrying about my sub, trying to make him better, growing with him (cause there is no limit for anyone in life), feeling and knowing there is someone who trying to make my life better, there is someone REAL with real personality and serious passions for me. There is someone sharing my ups and downs that I know is serious and genuine about his feelings and every word he uses while I'm around.
Everyone has a different style and vision in life. As a Dominant man I know mines are including fun, bad times, good times, true feelings, having friendly conversations, constantly letting him know who is the Boss , who owns everything he got etc. 'All around' type of relationships are the most dangerous ones in the scene, I met tons of subs who try to a***e my honest effort and who don't know how to behave even tho they say they are submissive and ready to get trained.
After more than 5 years of experience, I can finally say I found someone who shares my toughts and view on almost everything. And I wrote all of these to honor him infront of people, cause he deserved this. Most might think this is all about our targets or some materialistic s**t but it's not the first time I do some drainings or get large amount of money from subs. Or not his first time serving. This is a relationship beyond distances, borders and rules. We have our own rules and feelings only we both know that I hope will last forever. I'm incredibly proud of being the OWNER and MAN of @Nevermore life.
I know these words are for motivation to be a even better sub and make each other better instead of being lazy or spoiled! :p Cheers my good boy.
Aspirational. The Dom and sub dynamic between you both is both compelling and wonderful to witness. Long may it continue and grow and take the world by storm! 🥂
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Aug 21This. I’m also one who cares about the play and dedication as much if not more than the $
Aug 21Everyone has different needs, demands, limits and abilities, but I think there’s a match here for everyone.
Aug 21Although I don't much disagree, this behavior on both sides is prevalent enough in most online D/s (and much RL D/S), and a consequence of very real struggles people have with their often misunderstood feelings. It does not really seem all that shocking to me that it is worse with findom, given the nature of the interaction. A lot of this just comes with the territory we are exploring.Although I don't much disagree, this behavior on both sides is prevalent enough in most online D/s (and much RL D/S), and a consequence of very real struggles people have with their often misunderstoo...See moreYou need to sign in to comment
Aug 29Wow this brings back memories. How can it have been 6 months ago? I know we still chat about him and those times often. He’d still be so proud of you Boss 💪You need to sign in to comment
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Aug 20 '23YoungDom Sir, I love your pics Sir, but please, please, please, get yourself a vape. I wish I'd done it years ago. I know, boring, a bit of mothering from an old slave, but get yourself a vape.#
